Willie Horton

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Control Yourself and Change Your Life

It's funny - if that's the right word for it - so many people get so frustrated because they feel that they're not in control of their own lives. And the irony is that almost none of these people will take control of the one thing in their lives over which they can exercise absolute and total control - their own state of mind.

Practical Tips to Focus Your Mind

Once our day gets going it is the easiest thing in the world to get swept away by the routine, the urgent (which, by the way, is quite different from the important), the latest minor crisis (which probably seems major at the time) or, most common of all, the endless stream of useless thought that simply distracts us. Even if you have made the effort and started your day properly, it is simply all too easy to become submerged in the cares and worries of the moment and, as a result, revert to our default state of unfocused mindlessness.

Simply Happy!

The purpose of life is to be happy - so says the Dalai Lama. Jesus Christ said something similar when he said that he came so that 'you might have life and have it to the full'. Unfortunately, however, having worked in the field of personal development for more than fourteen years, I have come to the conclusion that most people aren't really quite sure what happiness actually means. And, perhaps, happiness has been confused with self gratification or pleasure. So what does happiness actually mean?

Personal Development: It's the Thought that Counts

Our lives are the product of what we ourselves do to create them. Although, ultimately, we cannot fully control our lives, we can, in the right frame of mind, exert a huge influence on our success and happiness. Unfortunately, however, the normal person exerts little or no influence at all over the course of their lives because they have no concept of their own ability to grasp full control of the one and only thing that all us can control - our own state of mind. Indeed, I suspect that it has never even occurred to the majority of people that they can control their own state of mind.

Personal Development and the Curse of Useless Thought

I'm writing this article on a Friday morning. A couple of years back, I did a breakfast seminar - a short discussion on effective personal development - for a large organization in Dublin. Early on in my presentation, I mentioned that fact that I was greeted at the door by a particularly good-humoured doorman and that when I'd mentioned to him that he was in fine form, he replied "Sure, isn't it Friday!" As a throwaway remark to my audience I asked "Would he be a grumpy old man if I arrived here Monday morning?" - and everyone shouted "Yes - he would!"

You Don't Have to Work Hard to be a Success

The vast majority of us have been raised with a couple of important "truths" etched into our subconscious mind: that you have to get yourself a good education to be a success and that you have to work hard to be a success. These are myths that enslave the normal person. Then again, even a cursory glance at the abundance of psychological evidence stretching back over many decades will enlighten you are to just how enslaved the normal mind actually is. Our minds are crammed with "truths" that, on closer examination, turn out to be utter nonsense.

No More Stress

Most people will always find something to stress them out - their job, their boss, their financial situation, their
husband, their wife, their boyfriend or girlfriend, their teenage children, their health, their golf, their holidays!
I have one client who telephoned my one day a few years back to tell me that he was stressed out. When I enquired what the perceived problem might be, he told me "I'm stressed out because I've nothing to be stressed out about!" Seriously! We never have to look far for something to whip up our adrenalin - and, if we can find nothing, we'll make it up.


Will This be Your Happy New Year?

Another "New" year is upon us - but what has changed?

Research (in the Universities of Chicago, Milan, Harvard - the list is quite long!) tells us that, in general, normal people lead repetitive lives where little ever changes. Sure, you might have made an important career change, met the love of your life (for now!), launched a new business, or captained your club on their way to winning the cup in the year just ended. But, so what! Little, under the skin
(personal or corporate) ever really changes.

How to Make a Great Impression

If you're worried about making a good impression, you can be damn sure that you're not! You see, the normal mind is split - part of you is there with whoever you're trying to impress, part of you is thinking that you're not as impressive as you would like to be and part of you is evaluating whether or not you're living down to your expectations. And that's on a good day! That assumes that you're wide awake enough to even realize that it might be a good idea to make a good impression!

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