Personal Growth Articles

Most people will always find something to stress them out - their job, their boss, their financial situation, their
husband, their wife, their boyfriend or girlfriend, their teenage children, their health, their golf, their holidays!
I have one client who telephoned my one day a few years back to tell me that he was stressed out. When I enquired what the perceived problem might be, he told me "I'm stressed out because I've nothing to be stressed out about!" Seriously! We never have to look far for something to whip up our adrenalin - and, if we can find nothing, we'll make it up.

Many of the problems and sufferings in life can be related back to a lack of awareness and expression of who we really are. This lack of authentic expression can often lead to distress in our life. When we are not expressing ourselves authentically, we are not living fully and we feel like something's missing.

Considering the word "success" conjures images of a life different from what you are experiencing now, does it not?

What images does success conjure for you? Wealth - a mansion; a beach house; vacation villas; luxury cars;

"The one thing you can't take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one's freedoms is to choose one's attitude in any given situation." -Victor Frankl

Is it always someone or something that causes us to be unhappy? Or, is it you? Every day is a new experience and you never know what is awaiting you around the corner. You may have every intention on having a good day but your boss doesn't have the same agenda and takes it out on you.

People associate meditation with calm, peace and tranquillity. What we don't, however, associate it with is
pain. The spiritual wisdom gained through meditation is, nevertheless, all about pain - deep emotional pain. Not removing it but truly feeling it. Sound scary? Well, the truth is that there is no human on Earth who has lived a life free of suffering. This is so universal a fact that the Buddha virtually crafted it into a definition of existence; "life is suffering".

"The mind is it's own place and can make Heaven out of Hell or Hell out of Heaven." -John Milton

Everyone has issues they are dealing with which range all over the "life experience" board. From relationships, to money, work, health, love, debt, decisions, crossroads, revenge, jealousy, bosses, bitterness, and on and on.

These issues seem to consume us and fill us with worry, fear, hurt, pain, anxiety and more. But, they don't have to.

February is upon us and we are firmly in the grip of winter's frosty fingers. For many of us, the initial wave of
inspiration that motivated us toward making positive changes in 2010 has already been thwarted. So soon, our best laid plans seem to have come to a standstill. Why does this always seem to happen with our well intended resolutions?

There are four essential elements that you need to master ifyou are ever going to be a successful public speaker andfully engage with your audience.

Eye Contact

Over 80% of your impact is going straight into your audiences eyes...so look at them...not the floor or the
walls or the ceiling or at your visual aids...look at the people.

I ran into some old friends last weekend, and immediately I felt a new sense of energy - catching my 'second wind' after a rather tiring morning. I think this happened for two reasons: one, simply because I was happy to see them, and two, because they're very successful.

I won't get into the types of successes they've achieved, because that's irrelevant: we all carry different
definitions of success in different areas (finance, health, leadership, relationships, all of the above...). The point is that these people make me want to be my best.

When I speak, I often engage the audience, working interactively. Why? Because I know that the more we engage all our senses (not just our ears) when we hear new material, the more it helps us to anchor that new material within us. I also know that anchored information will more likely be used when we return to our offices. Instructional designers call this "transfer of training." Proving that what we teach is actually taken and used in someone's work is the holy grail of professional training.